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Trust – Questions for a Birthing Mama

In the past year, my focus has increasingly evolved toward supporting mamas, partners and families in pregnancy, birth and postpartum.  My writings also increasingly focus on connectedness, empowerment and self-nourishment for mamas.

My intention for this Prosperity Blog has been that all kinds of people may find inspiration and connection to inner prosperity. I will occasionally share some of my Mama Care writings, such as this one on trust.  More of my Mama Care articles can be found on my website.

What can a pregnant mama do to set herself up for her best birth experience?  She can take a great childbirth preparation class.  She can invite her ideal support people to be at her birth.  She can fill her consciousness with images and stories of beautiful births.   One of the most fundamental – but sometimes overlooked – ways a mama can prepare is to acknowledge her doubts and fears, and cultivate trust in herself, her body and the birthing process.

Trust allows a woman to feel safe, which is integral for labor to progress naturally.  Birth is a rite of passage that challenges us to step up our ability to trust.  Before and during labor, fears and doubts can present themselves.  They can be anything from fear of making too much noise, to fear of drugs, to wondering if her body can really do it.  They may seem huge, small, serious or silly.  These doubts and fears offer the opportunity to overcome them and trust ourselves and our bodies.

Recognizing and stepping past fears and doubts can be both challenging and rewarding.  The process takes sensitivity, awareness and patience.  Support from someone with these traits – your partner, a doula, or a trusted friend or family member – can help you in the journey.

As you make your own path toward trust, here are some questions to ask yourself.  Draw pictures, journal or ask your trusted support person to listen as you explore these questions.

  • What doubts or fears do I have around birth?  Whether they are big or small, put them out there in words or images.  This will help you to let go of them.
  • Can I identify a belief or memory where each doubt or fear came from?
  • Is it possible that this belief or fear helped me at one time, but no longer serves me?  (For example, a fear of big dogs might help a small child keep out of harm’s way, but that is less relevant for an adult.)
  • How might I overcome these doubts or fears?  You might use as a starting point ways you’ve overcome fears or challenges in the past.
  • Are there times in my life, or have I experienced times, when I can or could completely trust?  What do or did I feel like when I trust(ed) completely?
  • What might help me trust my body and myself during birth?
  • If I completely trusted my body and myself to birth my baby in the best way, what would that birth be like?

When you create an image or description that you like of your completely trusting birth, you can use it as a focal point.  As you as you prepare for birth and during labor, put the image in a place you’ll see it, or say or ask someone to say a key word that represents your description.  Regardless of whether the specifics of your birth match your image, it will help you reconnect to the trust you’ve cultivated through your process.

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From Task-oholic to Thinking with the Heart

My last post introduced the heart as guide in connecting.  I continue this theme with heart as guide in thinking.

I’ve been breaking through a pattern of making up reasons to be busy, and/or feeling guilty for not being busy.  In college, I used to keep a running to-do list in my pocket, crammed with tasks that would pop into my head throughout the day.  I have been a task-oholic, addicted to numbing my mind, and even more so my heart, keeping myself busy with things I thought of in the past, to do in the future.

This leaves little energy for experiencing the present.

It’s taken years of first idyllic rustic living, then immersing myself in the Bay Area’s spiritually and somatically in-tune culture, to heal myself of this affliction.  I think I’m finally getting there.

I’m finally accepting that, far from being a reason to be guilty, not being busy is my work.  My work is to cultivate stillness and peace within, and share this.  My work is to be human with people.

I sometimes forget that to take the time to be human, to connect in this present moment, is inspiring.  A few times lately, I’ve found that someone has highly recommended me, and I’ve wondered, “But what did I do?”  Friends remind me that it’s probably not what I did, but that I took the time to be with that person, that impressed them.  In the stillness of mind and peacefulness of heart I am cultivating, I find more space for hearing others.

As I turn my attention toward the present moment, and as I let my thinking move from my head to my heart, I am discovering increasing ease and clarity.  May you also discover this peace.

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What is thinking from the heart?  Here are some ways I find it:

  • Letting my head give up some of its busy-ness
  • Allowing myself to be guided by my heart
  • Letting go of control, and trusting that everything will work out
  • Trusting that I already have what I’ve been asking for
  • Trusting that I already know, from within, the wisdom I’m seeking
  • Being still enough to find clarity about my goals
  • Taking time to set aside busy-ness and practice feeling peace  (Here’s a supportive guided meditation.)

How do you experience thinking from the heart?  How do you find it?  Please share below.  If you’re in the SF Bay Area, come explore this theme with a very special group at the next Connections in Nature Workshop.

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