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Every Moment Is a Blank Page.

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When you live every moment as a blank page, your life is imbued with a quiet power – the freedom to be exactly who you want to be, and to continually recreate yourself as “even better” than the best you’ve already been.

When every moment is a blank page, you have the freedom to make of each moment what you will your experience to be.

Habitually, we’ve chosen each new moment by looking at the past.  We’ve chosen by looking at what we already know.  This is why we often repeat the same patterns.  This is not a fallacy; this is wise.  We know we can count on what we know.

If you feel limited, turn to a blank page. In every moment, you can choose to take with you what works for you, and let go of what doesn’t.  “Letting go” may be a physical letting go, or it may be as simple as releasing a certain way of thinking about your situation.

If you feel stuck, stop for a moment.  Take a breath.  Turn to a blank page in your mind.  Ask yourself, “If on this page I found the best me I could be, the me I would most like to be, the highest expression of myself, what would that me look like?” Listen to your heart; feel for your highest truth.  Let yourself be who you find on that page. If you grant yourself that freedom, you are always free to live up to your highest potential.

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Be First, Let Doing Follow

What do you most desire?  Happiness?  Peace?  Freedom?  If your first answer is something you’d like to do or have – for example, build a successful career, have lots of money, or raise a family – ask yourself what what doing or having this would give you.  After a few cycles of this question, you will probably end up with something you’d like to be – such as be happy, be at peace, or be free.

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What if you could just be happy, peaceful or free, without having to go through all the doing or acquiring first?  Try this idea on for the extent of this article.  If it aligns with your inner truth, great!  If not, let it go and move on.

Consider that the world may really be altered by rose-colored glasses – or whatever filter you choose to see it through.  Consider that if you focus your attention on happiness, peace, freedom, or whatever you’d like to experience, you will most likely experience more of that.

Have you ever been in a foul mood and had a horrible experience, then later when feeling good, been in nearly the same situation and enjoyed it?  There’s no “truth” you’re ignoring when you enjoy yourself, nor are you wrong when you have a foul time.  You’re simply having the experience (foulness or enjoyment) that you were already being.

Here’s an experiment to try.  If you would like to be happy, notice happiness all day long.  Be aware of when you feel happy.  Notice other people who are happy.  Appreciate the happiness in you and around you.  Write all the happiness you experience and see in a journal.  Let happiness be your guide: when choosing, ask yourself, “Which feels happier?”

You can do this for any state of being you choose as your goal.  If you were choosing peace, you could:

  • Notice when you feel peace in yourself
  • Notice others who are experiencing peace
  • Appreciate peace in you and around you
  • Remind yourself of the many experiences you have of peace (for example, with a journal)
  • When choosing, let the feeling of peace be your guide: “What feels peaceful?”

Have fun with this.  Play with it, and enjoy being!

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From Task-oholic to Thinking with the Heart

My last post introduced the heart as guide in connecting.  I continue this theme with heart as guide in thinking.

I’ve been breaking through a pattern of making up reasons to be busy, and/or feeling guilty for not being busy.  In college, I used to keep a running to-do list in my pocket, crammed with tasks that would pop into my head throughout the day.  I have been a task-oholic, addicted to numbing my mind, and even more so my heart, keeping myself busy with things I thought of in the past, to do in the future.

This leaves little energy for experiencing the present.

It’s taken years of first idyllic rustic living, then immersing myself in the Bay Area’s spiritually and somatically in-tune culture, to heal myself of this affliction.  I think I’m finally getting there.

I’m finally accepting that, far from being a reason to be guilty, not being busy is my work.  My work is to cultivate stillness and peace within, and share this.  My work is to be human with people.

I sometimes forget that to take the time to be human, to connect in this present moment, is inspiring.  A few times lately, I’ve found that someone has highly recommended me, and I’ve wondered, “But what did I do?”  Friends remind me that it’s probably not what I did, but that I took the time to be with that person, that impressed them.  In the stillness of mind and peacefulness of heart I am cultivating, I find more space for hearing others.

As I turn my attention toward the present moment, and as I let my thinking move from my head to my heart, I am discovering increasing ease and clarity.  May you also discover this peace.


What is thinking from the heart?  Here are some ways I find it:

  • Letting my head give up some of its busy-ness
  • Allowing myself to be guided by my heart
  • Letting go of control, and trusting that everything will work out
  • Trusting that I already have what I’ve been asking for
  • Trusting that I already know, from within, the wisdom I’m seeking
  • Being still enough to find clarity about my goals
  • Taking time to set aside busy-ness and practice feeling peace  (Here’s a supportive guided meditation.)

How do you experience thinking from the heart?  How do you find it?  Please share below.  If you’re in the SF Bay Area, come explore this theme with a very special group at the next Connections in Nature Workshop.


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Ring Out the Old Year/The Space Between

etsunen in kanji - new year hibernation The word in this image, etsu-nen in Japanese, means both “ring out the old year” and “hibernation.”  Isn’t it neat that one word incorporates both the turning of the year and resting?

For me, the end of this year has been a time of stillness, of space between what my life has been and what I am stepping into.  And yet, the habitual, busy desire to do something still pops up, even when there’s nothing that really needs doing.

Everything is in motion, and there is only time between me and the future I’ve been asking for.  In the moments when I get this truth, I trust that my actions will arise in their right time, and I need not worry myself with them sooner.

For now, all I need do is enjoy this resting space.

In the space between 2009 and 2010, may we find rest and joy in simply being.

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Ways of Letting Go

I am learning to let go and trust the flow of life.  It is the only way I can step fully into my Work.  Letting go ego’s control, and surrendering to Source/God/the Universe is a theme showing up in my life these days.

Letting Go of That Fifty-Pound Rock

I am addicted to planning.  My habitual focus has been, “What do I need to do now to make sure I’m okay in the future?”  I need to make enough money to buy food next week and pay rent next month, and put some in savings for special situations down the road.  I need to schedule my life.  (My schedule book is consulted several times a day.)

This is not unusual; it is a mindset of our culture.  We save for retirement, plan a vacation next summer, and buy insurance.  Earning money, using a schedule, and buying insurance are useful for functioning in society.  I bring them up because they represent a need to control what will happen.

Asara Lovejoy describes surrender as like putting down the fifty-pound rock that’s been carried all one’s life.  It may make things a lot easier, but it sure feels strange.  Asara teaches the One Command, an awesomely effective process for reprogramming belief that we can have what we are wanting to create in our lives.  Core to the process is the statement, “I don’t know how…” (this thing will happen) (

By surrendering control over how the experience or thing I want comes to me, I open myself to all the possibilities in the universe that little me didn’t think of.  Most likely, one of the universe’s infinite possibilities will be even more effective than my few choices.

Letting Go of Having

Recently, I took a lymphatic massage class, which included “lymphaticizing,” or clearing clutter from, one’s home.  Karen Kingston’s Clear Your Clutter with Feng Shui was reading for the class, and inspiration for me.  I learned that I don’t need to keep papers (or other items) that are no longer useful, have negative associations, and/or someone else thought they would be useful but I don’t.  I had kept those things because I thought I might need them someday – or at least was supposed to need them someday.  It was refreshing to let go of them all!

Stuart Wilde takes even further this idea of letting stuff go.  In Infinite Self, he describes the mindset of not owning anything – even one’s body.  It’s all energy in transition, here with me – or you – for a while, and at some point it’ll be time to let go.

In this mindset, if I were to come home to find the stereo missing, I would say, “Ah, they’ve come for the stereo.”  I would know that the stereo, which I had for a time, has now gone back to God-Source – and now I have space for something else.

This lets me release a lot of responsibility.  I don’t need to hold on to all these things in my life.  They will come and go, and what I need will always be available in Source Energy.

Letting Go of Intellectual Knowing

This one builds upon my first point, putting down that fifty-pound rock of intellectually controlling the future.

In preparing my Connections in Nature workshops, I’ve been exploring perception and our understanding of what we feel.  When we perceive, a lot happens in a fraction of a second.  A stimulus comes through one or more senses, and immediately is interpreted through our understanding of the world.  Culture, education, values and personal experience are a few of the filters that act here.  Still within a fraction of a second, thoughts and emotions about the perception come up.  Finally, there’s a strategy – how we’re going to respond to that perception.  Most of the time, we react without being conscious of this process.  We see a person in front of us and before we know it, we are smiling or shouting at them.

What I’m playing with – on my own and in my workshop – is slowing down and attempting to catch the body’s response before all the processing.  I’ve found this is a way to access intuition – a way of knowing that goes beyond intellect and draws from source.

“Ah, They’ve Come for the Rock!”

I’m enjoying witnessing this journey of letting go.  I’m seeing my sense of struggle decrease and an increase in my trust that I am taken care of.

It’s amazing how much more space I have for creation, when I’m not carrying a fifty pound rock of impending doom that constantly warns, “If you don’t do ____, your future will fall apart!”  The voice hasn’t completely left yet; I still have at least fifteen pounds of it.  It’ll be nice to come home one day and exclaim, “Ah, they’ve come for the rock!”

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